Love her. Protect her. Provide her every want and need. Take care of her. Taking care of her doesn't mean paying all the bills, that helps, but money can't buy love. She wants YOU! Your love, strength, compassion, affection, understanding, time, balance, respect, your all.
She wants a love she can brag about, but doesn't have to tell the world about. They don't matter, they won't understand anyway. Your connection with her is unique and because it's understood, it doesn't have to be explained.
Love isn't about words, it's about actions. Don't just say how much you love her, show how much you love her. Gifts help, diamonds are a girl's best friend but when choosing a gift, remember what she asked for that one time and never mentioned again. It might only cost a fraction of what you were going to spend. Again, money can't buy you love, it only helps.
Listen to her. If she's raising kids, she doesn't need to raise you. She'll be there to help you grow and to help you mature, but that's her time. Time isn't money and money isn't time. You can lose money and regain it, lost time is irreplaceable. Time is an investment. She's giving you her time because she believes in you and she loves you. Make sure her time invested, ends up as a good investment. Money comes and goes, time just, well...it just goes.
Her family is important to her. There's no explanation needed, remember, it's family and then you.
Love cannot be forced. That no that turned into a yes, that was only because she loves you. That no, that's still no, again, she's doing it because she loves you. What her mouth won't mention, her facial expressions will say clearly. Research shows that 90% of communication is nonverbal so when she's silent, she's saying the most. Pay attention. Don't get mad, love her unconditionally. That means love her for who she is, not who you want her to be. As remarkable as the human heart is, it can love many simultaneously, but it can only be in love with one at a time.
I love you and I'm in love with you, don't mean the same thing. The brain can marry several times, the heart, but once.
Although love is patient, it won't wait forever. Because love is kind, it'll never be indifferent. Because love doesn't envy or boast and there's no room for pride, that means that true love cannot coexist with selfishness or lies. It's about we, not me. True love cannot call a place home where lies are known to roam. A wise person once said, 'The truth hurts but it doesn't kill. Lies may please, but they don't heal.'
Remember the phrase "nice guys finish last?" Allow me to reiterate, "yes guys" finish last. Be assertive, not controlling. Telling a female no will send a tingle up her spine that will either lead to her brain, heart, or her clitoris. Take your pick. Always saying yes is a sign of weakness. Remember, she needs your strength so, choose wisely.
Take time out to get to know her. You can't love a person you don't know. And once you get to know her, accept her for who she is, don't try to change her.
Getting to know a person is an ongoing interview. You're either gonna meet them, or their representative. Once a person gets the job and gets through their probationary period, the "real them" comes out. You may have saw signs in the beginning, but thought they would change or that you could change them. You may have asked a question, didn't like your answer, and thought you could change their perspective. Remember, people do what they want. When you love a person unconditionally, you accept them for who they are, not who you want them to be.
Help her to reach her full potential, and remember, what she does, is what she wants to do.
What she said in the beginning, is still relevant today. Not talking about it doesn't mean that it's disappeared, it means that you chose to ignore it. Never ignore her.
Namaste
